Picking up the pieces: Retirement after divorce

Newly divorced Shauna needs to learn to live on less and rebuild her broken investment portfolio

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From the Summer 2015 issue of the magazine.

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Two years ago, Shauna Ray loaded up her Jeep Escalade and drove away from 16 years of marriage to her husband Dan. It had been a long time coming. “During our time together Dan only ever cared about one thing—his career,” says Shauna, 42, who lives in Calgary. “He literally worked from sun up to sun down, which is saying something in Alberta. The split was inevitable.”

But Shauna’s now realizing how important Dan’s $120,000 salesman salary was to her lifestyle. (We’ve changed names to protect privacy.) Last month she did up a budget and found out she’s overspending by more than $2,200 annually on her $60,000 income. “Newly divorced, I’m feeling very unsure of how to plan for my future,” she admits. “Dan did all the heavy lifting in the financial planning department, so I know little about saving and investing.”

But it turns out Dan didn’t, either. He squandered a lot of their income investing in penny stocks, Shauna says. “He would always be disappointed we didn’t have large amounts of money socked away in RRSPs at year end. I now realize I was married to a day-trader.” With her divorce settlement, Shauna’s now determined to start living within her means and rebuild her broken investment portfolio. “It’s time to wake up and make a change.”

After the divorce last year, Shauna got the family home, $50,000 in cash, as well as around $96,000 in investments and savings—including $63,285 in her RRSP (filled with penny stocks), $18,709 in her TFSA (also invested in penny stocks) and about $14,000 split between her savings account and Canada Savings Bonds. And it’s been with varying degrees of success, failure or outright avoidance that she’s dealt with all these assets.

Retirement planning after a divorceImmediately downsizing from the 2,900 square foot ranch-style bungalow she once shared with her ex-husband to the smaller 1,400 square foot townhouse that she lives in today was a no-brainer. It’s worth $448,000 and with the money she made from the sale of her former marital home, she’s now completely mortgage free. “I plan to stay put for a while,” she says.

Not so great are Shauna’s excessive spending habits. Even after blowing through the $50,000 cash settlement from her divorce, she then went on to rack up nearly $44,000 in liabilities from loans and credit debt. “After the divorce, I overmedicated with buying furniture for the house,” she says. There was also the purchase of a brand new car, despite already owning a serviceable vehicle. “I spent way more than I should have. In hindsight I wish I had approached things slower.”

She now wants to get rid of her debt as quickly as possible but isn’t sure whether she should be prioritizing that over socking away money in her nest egg. “I don’t have much saved and I’m always torn between saving or paying down debt,” she says. “Which is best?” And what Shauna does have set aside for retirement is invested so poorly that it’s headache-inducing to even think about, particularly since she considers herself a conservative investor. “My accounts are full of crazy high-risk uranium and mining stocks that Dan bought for me while we were married. Some of these accounts have lost more than 70% of their value. Should I hold on? Or kiss it all good-bye and start over?”

Despite all the decisions—good and bad—that Shauna has made and despite all the questions about her finances that remain unanswered, she realizes it’s now time to create a budget and stick to it. “I know I spend too much but before I always felt it was okay because Dan made a lot of money and we had no kids.”

The one area Shauna won’t cut back on, however, is her charitable giving. Through her church, she sponsors seven children and that will remain a priority, she says. “I hope to meet each child I’ve sponsored at some point in my life. I’m ready to cut my budget in other areas to accommodate this.”

In fact, it was Shauna’s faith and involvement in her church that initially drew her to her ex-husband all those years ago. She was attracted to Dan, she says, mainly because they had the same religious beliefs and were part of the same congregation. The couple married in 1997 when Shauna was 25, and over the years Dan was always the breadwinner while she mostly worked part-time at odd jobs. During their marriage, whatever money the Rays had was invested either in their house, or in cyclical penny stocks that Dan was convinced would one day make them both rich. “He made most of the income so I let him invest it the way he wanted,” she says. “In hindsight, it was a disastrous thing to do but he really seemed to enjoy it more than I did.”

Thankfully, in the years preceding her divorce Shauna started pursuing full-time job opportunities for herself. “I never worked full-time until four years ago,” she says. “I took some accounting courses off and on during our marriage, and was lucky enough to get this payroll accounting job with a great company a couple of years before my marriage broke up.”

And with her new payroll coordinator job, Shauna is working to build a solid financial plan. Right now, she’s investing $2,500 a year in her company’s defined contribution pension plan, where her money is matched dollar for dollar by her employer. And despite her hesitation about saving versus paying down debt, she’s also contributing $20 biweekly towards the purchase of Canada Savings Bonds. “I’ve never really saved methodically,” she says. “I’m trying to change that now.”

Retirement planning after a divorceSomething else she’d like to accomplish is to learn a sensible approach to investing that will help grow her own personal portfolio. Recently, she picked a couple of mutual funds and says she’s happy with their performance—but also admits, “I’ve just been doing what I see others doing.” She knows the next step is to find an advisor she likes and to put together an investment plan—not to mention, deal with all the penny stocks in her various accounts—so that she can have a bright future. That’s proving to be challenging, however.

“I met with one advisor at a local financial institution but he never called me back,” Shauna says. But even if he had, she’s not certain she would have been able to determine if he had her best interests at heart. From her experience, advisors “will often say they’re not commission-based, but it’s hard to know whose rubbing whose back. I want to take control of my own finances and do what’s right for me and my future. I don’t want to squander this second chance.”

That includes investing in the right man this time around as well. “Dating in your 20s is so different from dating in your 40s,” Shauna says. “But I decided last fall that I did not want to date guys in their 40s with kids. No baby mama drama for me.” In fact, she’s been in a long-distance relationship with an American doctor 10 years her senior that she met just before Christmas at a religious conference in Washington. He’s divorced with no children, too.

Knowing she’d love to get another shot at marriage some day, Shauna wants to be smarter about her money now. “I need to protect my assets if I get involved in another committed relationship. I want to make the right choices so I don’t regret it later on.” That being said, she doesn’t want to get too far ahead of herself either. “I first want to have a concise plan for my own future. When I retire at 65, I’d like to do volunteer work full-time and give more to charity. To know that I’ve changed the lives of people in need is what really gives me true satisfaction in life.”


Shauna Ray has a generous heart but unrealistic expectations. “She wants to do all the things she did while married and she really can’t do it all,” says Trevor Van Nest, a money coach in St. Catharines, Ont. And now she’s realizing she’d depended too much on her spouse’s financial decisions, a position many new divorcees find themselves in. “While it’s common in a relationship that one spouse has more interest in financial issues than the other, investing should be a shared responsibility,” says Van Nest.

Retirement planning after a divorceMoreover, adds Vickie Campbell, a certified financial planner in Ottawa, “Shauna is confused over whether she should save or pay down the debt. She needs to prioritize.” Here’s what she should do.

Draw up a budget. Shauna is spending $2,203 more annually than she’s earning. “She needs to track her spending to ensure she doesn’t spend more than she makes,” says Campbell. One of her two vehicles needs to go, which will reduce her car insurance. Modest reductions in her cosmetics and clothing expenses, coupled with putting an end to her biweekly Canada Savings Bond contributions, will help keep on her track too.

Pay down the debt. Shauna has funds available to pay off her debt in full. “She should take the money in her savings account, Canada Savings Bonds and TFSA­—$32,585 in total—and put it towards her line of credit debt, credit card debt and car loan, leaving her with just $11,306 on the car loan,” says Campbell. And by selling her older car, she’ll bring her debt to zero.

Rebuild her savings. Once all of Shauna’s debt is paid off, the $7,707 that was going towards yearly debt repayment will be available for investing. “She should put this money into an RRSP annually,” says Campbell. “The tax refund she receives can be put into her TFSA to rebuild her savings.” With low housing costs and a keen eye on keeping her expenses down, Shauna should be able to save 20% of her net income annually.

Regarding her pension plan, adds Campbell, “she should make sure she is contributing the maximum so she receives the full matching contribution. This is free money waiting to be taken.”

Find a financial advisor. Both Van Nest and Campbell believe that Shauna’s investment holdings don’t reflect her personality and risk profile. They recommend she look for an advisor with a certified financial planner designation that she can work with on a long-term basis. Checking out moneysense.ca/planner will get her started.

“She should bite the bullet, sell all her high-risk stocks and replace them with a more conservative investment strategy,” says Campbell. “One option is the Mawer balanced fund, which she can contribute to monthly through a preauthorized payment plan through a discount brokerage account at her bank. This will keep her costs low and investment plan simple. Her new advisor will help her with this.” Van Nest agrees, adding, “this will eliminate the risk of loss that comes from stock-picking.”

Campbell also suggests Shauna track her net worth with her new advisor, and set short-term and long-term goals. “Watching her money grow every year will keep Shauna motivated to stay on plan.”

Protect her assets. “If Shauna finds herself in a serious relationship , she should consider a cohabitation or prenuptial agreement,” says Van Nest. The CRA defines a common-law relationship as 12 months of cohabitation, but Alberta law defines it as not less than three years. Regardless of the timeline, Van Nest says that as soon as Shauna enters into marriage or a shared living arrangement, she may want a lawyer to draw up a document to make it clear what would happen if a split were to occur. “This is the only way Shauna can legally protect her assets from a future partner,” says Van Nest.

Stay in the pension plan. “If Shauna’s retirement contributions and employer matching continue until age 65, she will have built up $473,000 assuming a 5% annual return and 2% annual pay increases,” says Van Nest. When CPP at 65 and Old Age Security at 67 are added, Shauna can anticipate an annual taxable income of about $36,000 in today’s dollars throughout her retirement for a modest standard of living. Add in the $300,000 or more she will have built up in her RRSP, and Shauna will be just fine.


20 comments on “Picking up the pieces: Retirement after divorce

  1. Why would MoneySense bother helping people like this? And how do you spend 50000+ dollars on furniture in a 1400ft2 town house? No wonder her chump of a x-husband had to work form morning to night. To all the men out there beware of financial liabilities disguising themselves as wives/spouses



    • Doesn’t say she spent $50k on furniture. Just that she blew through the money, bought furniture and a car.


  2. She’s certainly got a lot to learn and seems willing to do what it takes to turn things around. It’s exactly people like this who really need the help and guidance.


  3. How come there is no alimony?


    • Hi Shelley,
      Alimony is an American term. In Canada we call it spousal support. Oftentimes, in a divorce, if there are no children involved and the wife feels she can get a good job (or has a good-paying job) she will negotiate away spousal support for another asset, such as the house or pension. That’s what happened in this case. Hope that helps, julie.


      • “she will negotiate away spousal support for another asset, such as the house or pension”

        And you’re OK with that? With her getting so much stuff simply because she has a vagina? He basically contributed most of the money to everything during the marriage, but because she has a vagina we have to give her everything….Retirement accounts, house, etc….Are you fucking kidding me?

        And on top of that she could also negotiate alimony for another asset? Fucking sexist society.


      • If there are no children, and she has a job and all the free time in the world, and she is most likely younger, what the justification for “Spousal support”? Where is his spousal support? – he is just a salesman that has proven a “hard worker”. Shouldn’t your website that is focused on “Money sense” be writing articles advising people that getting married that often leads to divorce can ruin you financially especially if you happen to be a male living in a hipster country like Canada? I find this story to be particularly disturbing, and that there is a bigger story here than helping this woman. Its like reading a story on Goldilocks and the three bears and you write a story on different porridge recipes.


  4. This article bothers me. Probably not possible but it would be intersting to do a similar profile of her “bad” husband I some how don’t think he came out of this with much. I wish this article could be sent to all unmarried men as a warning to never enter the legally binding contract that is marriage. Find another way.


    • I find this story to be particularly disturbing, and that there is a bigger story here than helping this woman. Its like reading a story on Goldilocks and the three bears and you write a story on different porridge recipes.


  5. Even on her own, it looks as if she is doing much better than the “average” one-income (@$60,000) Canadian family WITH children. She should count herself lucky and not appear so down-trodden. To be at 42 years, single, without children financials, with a $450,000 residence, without a mortgage, with $60,000/yr job, with almost $100,000 in savings, and with $32,000 in net vehicle equity; I agree that she does not deserve pity nor MoneySense’s help as this should not ever be considered a common Canadian situation.


    • Thats why men need to consider the dangers of marriage – Marriage can severely ruin you financially. This is a very realistic scenario. I know many men including myself who have experienced similar situation.


  6. No matter how hard I try, I just can’t feel sorry for this irresponsible woman. No man with any sense in this country will marry or move in with a woman these days. Good work, ladies.


  7. The husband is probably broke by now. The system is so corrupted. How the heck does she get the house when she probably did not contribute to paying it. Amazing!


  8. Wait this isn’t a joke? I thought for a second this was a parody. So basically the ex-wife got everything but she is the victim because she made a deal with his ex-husband so he give everything he had in exchange to not to pay a spouse wage. But what about him? Why you didn’t make a follow-up about him? is he living right now in an hotel with a rented car? And with that income he is lucky beacuse most normal men don’t make that much money and after the divorce they are homeless, they don’t have anything nor a house nor a car nor the children and the wage they earn goes to the wife. Wasn’t this suppose to be an equal society? Then why all the money, house/car must go to the wife? Im actually glad you made this article so unmarried men can see how unfair and cruel the divorce is with them.


  9. She got the house and about 500.000$ and her salary is 60.000$ i mean she got everything and he (the husband) got nothing, and you still consider her a “victim” ? this is disgusting how this article didn’t mentioned how things went for the husband, ex-hus should be the examples because it’s always the men who suffer from divorces, (65% of homeless are men and mostly divorced men exposed to divorce laws)
    here someone responded to your article : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rYdPeCTtk88


  10. Hi

    No one is speaking about the husband….how his life downsided he lost the house where he lived 16 years at least now homeless or a renter where he would be spending a lot of money on rent. Lost his investment (like the penny stock) I worked in penny stock and believe me its hard to make 50k…one bad trade and you are tossed.
    People are asking why she did not get alimony… My point is why she should…someone is saying that she got the house instead of the alimony it means she still has the upper hand…

    He is making 120k it will take him years at least to make what he lost in the divorce and what he lost his job ….TOSSED


  11. This specific article was mentioned in this youtube vid: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rYdPeCTtk88. Mnay of us are curious how the guy turned out. Note that he’s a worker & saver. The gal is a spender. He’ll be OK in the long run. She needs that doctor to fund her expectations for her future existence.


  12. A much better and appropriate story would be to give married men advice how not to find themselves loosing all their wealth and hard work to overspending, financially irresponsible and unreasonably expectation women. Missing from the story is what he ended up with. I find stories like these where obviously the man made ALL the financial contribution and wealth to the marriage ends up in the hands of some overspending and refuse to work woman THAT just serves to fuel the argument that Marriage is a really really bad idea for men. If we are to encourage women on the road of equality, they must work and achieve financial independence.


  13. MGTOW my friends. It will help you avoid all of this “I am a victim” nonsense. What about the guy?


  14. “she may want a lawyer to draw up a document to make it clear what would happen if a split were to occur. “This is the only way Shauna can legally protect her assets from a future partner,” says Van Nest.”

    So should all men be doing this when living with any women? Yes – but we don’t because the women would refuse. Men should refuse such contracts also.


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