How much to spend on a wedding gift

Spending $50 to $75 on a couple you’re not that close to is reasonable, experts say.

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From the April 2013 issue of the magazine.

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weddings_322Q: I’m attending the wedding of a distant cousin, who I barely know. I don’t think we should have to spend more than $50 to $75 on a gift, but my wife says we’ll look like cheap jerks. Who’s right?

— D.O., Ottawa

A: Relax, you’re not cheap jerks. A recent survey of newlyweds by Theknot.com and Weddingchannel.com found out how much guests spend on wedding gifts. On the lower end, $50 to $75 was considered reasonable for a colleague or business associate. Next up were friends or relatives, where the norm was $75 to $100. But if it’s a really close friend or immediate relative, be prepared to shell out $100 to $150. A distant cousin definitely qualifies for the middle range—stick to $75 and you’ll be just fine. Keep in mind that the happy couple’s special day is a celebration of their union, not how much loot they can collect, says etiquette expert and host of MannersTV.com, Louise Fox.

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5 comments on “How much to spend on a wedding gift

  1. I would spend a little more than that considering the event was paid for by the bride and groom. At the very least, providing a gift that exceeds the benefit of the meals and entertainment makes sense.

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  2. Why go to the wedding of someone you barely know???

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  3. Its such a tricky one, it often depends on how rich the happy couple are, the richer they are the more obliged you can feel to spend more on your gifts. We live in very tough times and for some people just having to go to a wedding can be very costly compared to their weekly budget, so I don't think people should expect to much or put pressure on themselves to keep up with "whats expected"

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  4. this is a real problem for me when attending various friend's weddings..

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  5. Is this per person or per couple?

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