Q: Is it okay to return a wedding gift for cash? Sorry to say, but this glassware is really tacky.— Brash Bride, Regina
A: Exchanging a gift is acceptable only if you already own the item or if you receive duplicates, says Kim Choy, event manager at The Wedding Planners Institute of Canada. Otherwise, cashing in a wedding gift is simply not proper etiquette. “You’re going to be offending the person who spent their time and money on that gift they gave you,” says Choy. “If it doesn’t necessarily reflect your tastes, it’s still something they picked out for you.” But if you do receive two of the same thing, tell one of the gifters that you’ll be returning it to get something that will compliment what they originally picked for you or that you’re getting something else you really need. To avoid this kind of situation in the first place, be sure to create a gift registry to give guests a clear idea of what you’d like. Never put that information in the wedding invitation, though, and never ever ask for money, says Choy.
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