The mindset shift that makes negotiation easier
Forget the cutthroat boardroom negotiations you see on TV. Iconomopoulos says effective negotiation isn’t about playing hardball and winning at all costs. “Negotiation can be collaborative, not just the competitive imagery you see in pop culture. People say, ‘Your life must be so exciting, like that show Suits.’ But people pay me a lot of money to ensure it’s not like that.” That’s not what effective negotiations look like, she says.
For Gen Z and Millennials who cringe at the thought of haggling, the trick is to shift your mindset. Negotiation need not be confrontational; it’s about finding mutually beneficial solutions. And Iconomopoulos’ take on what’s negotiable: “The easy answer is everything.”
That “suggested” retail price? Just a suggestion. That initial job offer? A starting point. “Just because something is suggested doesn’t mean it’s final,” she says. To illustrate this, Iconomopoulos points to a common scenario: “When you think about the simplest types of negotiations, like car negotiations, if you look at a TV commercial or a print ad, it’s going to say ‘MSRP: Manufacturer’s Suggested Retail Price.’ You have to focus on the word ‘suggested.’ Nothing is set in stone.”
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Your guide to negotiating 6 key areas of daily life
Here’s the lowdown on surprising things you can negotiate, with Iconomopoulos’ expert tips for each.
1. Your career: Salary, perks and severance
Your employment compensation goes beyond just the number on your paycheque. Think benefits, vacation time, remote work options, professional development—and even severance if things don’t work out.
“Go in as informed as you possibly can—always do your research,” Iconomopoulos says. Know your worth, research industry standards on sites like Glassdoor and “talk to people in your industry. Other humans are great sources of information but get a diverse set of voices. Don’t [just talk to] someone like you, who may have been afraid to negotiate something for the last 20 years. Find out what else is out there and what else is negotiable from others who’ve done it.” Diverse inputs will give you more confidence and information.
Then, when you’re talking terms, don’t hesitate to ask “how” or “what” questions to uncover possibilities:
- What can we do to make the remote work a little bit easier?
- How else can we work on my advancement opportunities?
Remember to consider, “What are the things that are going to help you keep money in your wallet? And what are the things that will add money to your wallet, like professional development?” Think creatively about the perks that matter to you.